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Old 07-01-2006, 11:53 PM   #1
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who knows best?.... M.B.

Who Knows Best?

Others do not know what's best for us.

We do not know what's best for others.


It is our job to determine what's best for ourselves.

"I know what you need"...."I know what you should do"..."Now
listen, this is what I think you should be working on right now."


These are audacious statements, beliefs that take us away from how we
operate on a spiritual plane of life. Each of us is given the ability to
be able to discern and detect our own path, on a daily basis. This is
not always easy. We may have to struggle to reach that quiet, still
place.

Giving advice, making decisions for others, mapping out their strategy,
is not our job. or is it their job to direct us. Even if we have a clean
contract with someone to help us, such as in a sponsorship relationship,
we cannot trust that others always know what is best for us. We are
responsible for listening to the information that comes to us. We are
responsible for asking for guidance and direction. But it is our
responsibility to sift and sort through information, and then listen to
ourselves about what is best for us. Nobody can know that but ourselves.

A great gift we can give to others is to be able to trust in them, that
they have their own source of guidance and wisdom, that they have the
ability to discern what is best for them and the right to find that path
by making mistakes and learning.

To trust ourselves to be able to discover, through that same imperfect
process of struggle, trial, and error, is a great gift we can give
ourselves........M.B.
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