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*clean42day* · 07-06-2006, 10:25 PM

Getting It All Out

Get it out. Go ahead. Get it all out. Once we begin recovery, we may
feel like it's not okay to gripe and complain. We may tell ourselves
that if we were really working a good program, we wouldn't need to
complain.

What does that mean? We won't have feelings? We won't feel overwhelmed?
We won't need to blow off steam or work through some not-so-pleasant,
not-so-perfect, and not-so-pretty parts of life?

We can let ourselves get our feelings out, take risks, and be vulnerable
with others. We don't have to be all put together, all the time. That
sounds more like codependency than recovery.

Getting it all out doesn't mean we need to be victims. It doesn't mean
we need to revel in our misery, finding status in our martyrdom. It
doesn't mean we won't go on to set boundaries. It doesn't mean we won't
take care of ourselves.

Sometimes, getting it all out is an essential part of taking care of
ourselves. We reach a point of surrender so we can move forward.

Self-disclosure does not mean only quietly reporting our feelings. It
means we occasionally take the risk to share our human side, the side
with fears, sadness, hurt, rage, unreasonable anger, weariness, or lack
of faith.

We can let our humanity show. In the process, we give others permission
to be human too. "Together" people have their not-so-together moments.
Sometimes, falling apart, getting it all out, is how we get put back
together.....M.B.

Serenity · 07-07-2006, 11:30 PM

Hi clean42day, its me serenity good to finally find you!!! I've been surfing around & kind of figuring things out, but still feeling pretty lost! Anyway great message, talk to u soon, love ya,
Serenity

*clean42day* · 07-08-2006, 04:15 AM

Hi there (((serenity)))) good to see you here....I almost missed ya. I am going to Boulder,CO for a week to a family reunion and might not be able to post here.

scout around and make some friends

....I will be back a week from the
8th.

hope to see you then !

light and love

Gail

p.s. there is a really cool online journal section....it's kinda like an ongoing meeting with cross talk allowed....pretty cool , you might like it, and you will find some really great people there.

07-06-2006, 10:25 PM	#1
clean42day Moderator Join Date: Jun 2006 Location: Lancaster CA Posts: 1,770	Getting It All Out....M.B. Getting It All Out Get it out. Go ahead. Get it all out. Once we begin recovery, we may feel like it's not okay to gripe and complain. We may tell ourselves that if we were really working a good program, we wouldn't need to complain. What does that mean? We won't have feelings? We won't feel overwhelmed? We won't need to blow off steam or work through some not-so-pleasant, not-so-perfect, and not-so-pretty parts of life? We can let ourselves get our feelings out, take risks, and be vulnerable with others. We don't have to be all put together, all the time. That sounds more like codependency than recovery. Getting it all out doesn't mean we need to be victims. It doesn't mean we need to revel in our misery, finding status in our martyrdom. It doesn't mean we won't go on to set boundaries. It doesn't mean we won't take care of ourselves. Sometimes, getting it all out is an essential part of taking care of ourselves. We reach a point of surrender so we can move forward. Self-disclosure does not mean only quietly reporting our feelings. It means we occasionally take the risk to share our human side, the side with fears, sadness, hurt, rage, unreasonable anger, weariness, or lack of faith. We can let our humanity show. In the process, we give others permission to be human too. "Together" people have their not-so-together moments. Sometimes, falling apart, getting it all out, is how we get put back together.....M.B. __________________ Though no one can go back and make a brand new start, we can all start from today and make a brand new ending. ~Carl Bard~ "Live today fully, expressing gratitude for all you have been, all you are right now, and all you are becoming." Melodie Beattie

07-08-2006, 04:15 AM	#3
clean42day Moderator Join Date: Jun 2006 Location: Lancaster CA Posts: 1,770	Hi there (((serenity)))) good to see you here....I almost missed ya. I am going to Boulder,CO for a week to a family reunion and might not be able to post here. scout around and make some friends ....I will be back a week from the 8th. hope to see you then ! light and love Gail p.s. there is a really cool online journal section....it's kinda like an ongoing meeting with cross talk allowed....pretty cool , you might like it, and you will find some really great people there. __________________ Though no one can go back and make a brand new start, we can all start from today and make a brand new ending. ~Carl Bard~ "Live today fully, expressing gratitude for all you have been, all you are right now, and all you are becoming." Melodie Beattie

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07-07-2006, 11:30 PM	#2
Serenity Newcomer Join Date: Jun 2006 Posts: 5	Hi clean42day, its me serenity good to finally find you!!! I've been surfing around & kind of figuring things out, but still feeling pretty lost! Anyway great message, talk to u soon, love ya, Serenity