Healing after Loss

[janbear]

In case we are feeling driven to somehow "get done with" our grieving (if I do it faster, maybe I will feel better sooner), let us be reminded that, as in many of life's profoundest experiences-eating and drinking-faster is not necessarily better. Perhaps the reassuring thing about grieving is that the process will not be cheated. It will take as much time as it needs. Our task is to be attentive when the messages of mind and memory come. If we let them go by unattended the first time, they will probably cost more in the long run.

If i can let my resistance down, be calm in my soul, my grief will tell me what it needs from me at each step along the way.

Martha Whitmore Hickman