Sharing our pain

[janbear]

Sometimes when we sink into a depression, we avoid praying because we think we don’t deserve to be heard in our miserable state. But that’s when we need God the most. There is no feeling or experience, however despairing, that we can’t share with God and others. He asks us to cast all cares on him. Even if he doesn’t answer immediately, he still hears - and He is at work.

And in NA literature it tells us that "pain shared is pain lessened". I have defintiely found that true for me.

[yukonm]

I have always believed in the power of prayer and always asked for others to pray for me. For some reason, I didn't believe I was worth to be heard. Even when I first began to pray, I would ask God to "help me" do such and such. Now I understand that I must rely soley God and trust Him to guide my thoughts and actions.

[Jay Bee]

Janbear thank you for the post. It is very powerful and meaningful to me. In the beginning ,I could'nt understand the meaning of Letting GO and hold ON. It was only when someone was sharing about " pain shared is pain lessened'. After letting go of the pain , I have to hold on , That when I feel his presence the most, My GOD alway's put people on my path at the right time. That's when the power's are greater than myself restore's me. I will say( ME too) , (I defintiely found this to be true for me). agin thank you for the post.

[Mycool]

Upon the willing foundation of admission and refuge, can be built a lifetime of spiritual practice. No matter which language and approach ultimately resonates closest to your own experience, the steps are a path that when practiced lead beyond craving and suffering, towards true healing and serenity.

[sioux]

I have never actually heard this phrase, but the concept of taking the power out of whatever is bogging me down by writing it, sharing it with a sponsor, and asking for help in prayer have been tools to help me loosen the shackles. Of course, these are actions, and sometimes the process is difficult to surrender to. Not going it alone on spiritual matters has been a lifesaver for me.

[clean42day]

I cannot imagine going through the pain of watching my father wither away and dying slowly and doing it alone. I have and am using every resource at my disposal meeting friends, sponsor, family, close friends and people here and God are all helping me through losing the most important man in my life.

Nothing compares to this kind of heartbreak.

I watched my father cry today because he is so embarrassed by his physical condition - he can no longer walk, stand, or go to the bathroom by himself. His pride dissolved into shame today over a body that is betraying his indepdendent spirit.

I had to reassure him - that no matter what his body does - it cannot betray my perception of the strong independent man he has been in my life.

but at the same time my heart is breaking for him.

I pray everyday that God will surround us all and him with his light and love

and I pray that God will help me through this clean and sober - with a clear mind and a heart full of compassion not only for my DAD but for my brothers and sister as well.

light and love

Gail

[janbear]

Thank you all for being a part of my recovery. Keep coming back.

[bluidkiti]

Took me a while to be able to share my pain. Even with God. I was so use to carrying my burdens myself. I certainly didn't want to share with others because of my trust issue with people. Sometimes I have had others take what I shared with them and either both throw it back in my face later and/or tell everyone what I shared with them in confidence when this person became upset with me. With God, as I said, I was so use to carrying my own burdens and took a while to be able to share with Him and to let go totally but it did happen. One thing for sure, I know I can trust God.