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*janbear* · 07-31-2006, 11:07 AM

The ACOA laundry list
Take this test. You may be an ACOA if you have any of these traits.

1. Guess at what normal is.

2. Have difficulty in following a project through from beginning to end.

3. Lie when it would be just as easy to tell the truth.

4. Judge themselves without mercy.

5. Have difficulty having fun.

6. Take themselves very seriously.

7. Have difficulty with intimate relationships.

8. Overreact to changes over which they have no control.

9. Constantly seek approval and affirmation.

10. Feel that they are different from other people.

11. Are either super responsible or super irresponsible.

12. Are extremely loyal, even in the face of evidence that loyalty is undeserved

keithmh · 08-01-2006, 05:50 AM

I don't know if that is an official list or not, but there a couple missing

13. are able to read/misinterpret the slightest change in anothers words or actions.

14. are constantly waiting for the other shoe to drop

15. believe that since they can't be loved, pity is a great substitute

16. wonder what a good night's sleep is

17. are willing to be abused for the sake of harmony

Pax

Keith

flickchic · 08-01-2006, 09:23 AM

"caretaking" appears to be a common denominator amongst ACOAs' also.

Peggyannvt · 08-01-2006, 01:11 PM

There is an offical problem and solution in ACOA

Our group which did last 10 years before it died, added, that we do not know what normal is. I could post them if there is a wish.

LOVE
Peggyann

keithmh · 08-01-2006, 05:38 PM

please post them. that would be great. thank you for your kind offer.

*dalin* · 07-23-2007, 04:20 PM

well good things for dalin to look at

07-31-2006, 11:07 AM	#1
janbear willing servant Join Date: Jun 2006 Location: Oklahoma Posts: 14,175	The ACOA laundry list The ACOA laundry list Take this test. You may be an ACOA if you have any of these traits. 1. Guess at what normal is. 2. Have difficulty in following a project through from beginning to end. 3. Lie when it would be just as easy to tell the truth. 4. Judge themselves without mercy. 5. Have difficulty having fun. 6. Take themselves very seriously. 7. Have difficulty with intimate relationships. 8. Overreact to changes over which they have no control. 9. Constantly seek approval and affirmation. 10. Feel that they are different from other people. 11. Are either super responsible or super irresponsible. 12. Are extremely loyal, even in the face of evidence that loyalty is undeserved __________________ And this above all, to thine own self be true. And it must follow as night the day, thou canst not be false to any man. -Shakespeare For as he thinks in his heart, so is he. Proverbs 23:7

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08-01-2006, 05:50 AM	#2
keithmh Newcomer Join Date: Jul 2006 Location: Seoul, Korea Posts: 3	I don't know if that is an official list or not, but there a couple missing 13. are able to read/misinterpret the slightest change in anothers words or actions. 14. are constantly waiting for the other shoe to drop 15. believe that since they can't be loved, pity is a great substitute 16. wonder what a good night's sleep is 17. are willing to be abused for the sake of harmony Pax Keith

08-01-2006, 09:23 AM	#3
flickchic Registerd User Join Date: Jun 2006 Location: central wheatbelt, western australia Posts: 1,157	"caretaking" appears to be a common denominator amongst ACOAs' also.

08-01-2006, 01:11 PM	#4
Peggyannvt Al-anon, ACOA Join Date: Jul 2006 Location: Vermont Posts: 50	There is an offical problem and solution in ACOA Our group which did last 10 years before it died, added, that we do not know what normal is. I could post them if there is a wish. LOVE Peggyann

08-01-2006, 05:38 PM	#5
keithmh Newcomer Join Date: Jul 2006 Location: Seoul, Korea Posts: 3	please post them. that would be great. thank you for your kind offer.

07-23-2007, 04:20 PM	#6
dalin Super Moderator Join Date: Jul 2006 Location: Canada.One month a year either in Smyrna Ga,or Franklin louisiana Posts: 2,026	well good things for dalin to look at