HOW TO BEGIN - Step 8 - Cyber Recovery Social Network Forums

*janbear* · 08-03-2006, 07:38 AM

"To get a toehold on how to proceed with this step, it is helpful to review steps four and five. Our list of resentments clearly indicates that there are many people with whom we need to set the record straight. Despite the fact that we've admitted our wrongs to God, to ourselves and to another human being, this is the first time in our program that we're actively preparing to acknowledge to others the harm we've done.

The interpersonal difficulties we've had in the past were not necessarily all our fault. Nevertheless, in Step Eight, it's our own house that need putting in order. Therefore, no matter what part others played in the situation, we need to focus only on ourselves and our own responsibility. We derive no value at all from clinging to the memory of personal slights. Nor can we afford such rationalizations as, "I would never have behaved that way if she hadn't started it," or, "He asked for it. He was so self-righteous!"

In this Step, we're trying to free ourselves from the wreckage of our own mistakes. Since we're also seeking forgiveness for the unkind, unfair and untrue things we've done in the past, our best bet is to clean up our side of the street.

In reviewing my inventory, I acknowledge that I have harmed others. "

-Step by Step

free2bunme · 10-18-2006, 11:19 AM

Quote:

In this Step, we're trying to free ourselves from the wreckage of our own mistakes.

Freedom is such a gift.

*dalin* · 10-18-2006, 05:02 PM

but freedom isnt free

08-03-2006, 07:38 AM	#1
janbear willing servant Join Date: Jun 2006 Location: Oklahoma Posts: 14,175	HOW TO BEGIN - Step 8 "To get a toehold on how to proceed with this step, it is helpful to review steps four and five. Our list of resentments clearly indicates that there are many people with whom we need to set the record straight. Despite the fact that we've admitted our wrongs to God, to ourselves and to another human being, this is the first time in our program that we're actively preparing to acknowledge to others the harm we've done. The interpersonal difficulties we've had in the past were not necessarily all our fault. Nevertheless, in Step Eight, it's our own house that need putting in order. Therefore, no matter what part others played in the situation, we need to focus only on ourselves and our own responsibility. We derive no value at all from clinging to the memory of personal slights. Nor can we afford such rationalizations as, "I would never have behaved that way if she hadn't started it," or, "He asked for it. He was so self-righteous!" In this Step, we're trying to free ourselves from the wreckage of our own mistakes. Since we're also seeking forgiveness for the unkind, unfair and untrue things we've done in the past, our best bet is to clean up our side of the street. In reviewing my inventory, I acknowledge that I have harmed others. " -Step by Step __________________ And this above all, to thine own self be true. And it must follow as night the day, thou canst not be false to any man. -Shakespeare For as he thinks in his heart, so is he. Proverbs 23:7

Thread Tools
Show Printable Version Email this Page
Display Modes
Linear Mode Switch to Hybrid Mode Switch to Threaded Mode

Similar Threads
Thread	Thread Starter	Forum	Replies	Last Post
The It Works that Addicts wrote	dalin	Narcotics Anonymous - Substance Abuse Recovery	20	10-15-2008 08:43 AM
The Back to Basics..by Greg P	dalin	Narcotics Anonymous - Substance Abuse Recovery	3	04-19-2008 01:22 AM
The Co-Dependent's 12 Steps - Lots of info	admin	Family & Friends of Alcoholics/Addicts	2	03-28-2008 03:54 PM
It works..5 to 12	dalin	Narcotics Anonymous - Substance Abuse Recovery	1	09-08-2007 05:36 AM
It Works ;How and Why..original version by addicts	dalin	Narcotics Anonymous - Substance Abuse Recovery	0	07-23-2007 02:11 PM

10-18-2006, 05:02 PM	#3
dalin Super Moderator Join Date: Jul 2006 Location: Canada.One month a year either in Smyrna Ga,or Franklin louisiana Posts: 2,026	but freedom isnt free