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*janbear* · 08-30-2006, 04:39 PM

Some of us had startling revelations when we did the exercise in which we evaluated the payoffs we experienced from our character defects. Now, if we look at those defects-this time to assess how they affected others-we'll find that our list of amends will start to grow.

For instance: How did our depressions affect our family, business associates, friends and neighbors? What impact did our lying have on them?

What about unfaithfulness, reckless handling of money, excesses of food and drink, being judgmental, unreasonable expectations, sexual demands? Indifference? Dependency? Secrecy? Procrastination? Neglecting health problems? Selfishness?

We've tried to convince ourselves that our attitudes and behavior really harmed no one but ourselves. But as we really big to dig, we find that that we've only looked at the tip of the iceberg. The more we probe, the more we realize we have to probe. Since no human being exists in a vacuum, it would be an impossiblity not to affect others by our deeds, our moods and our demands.

In honestly reviewing my character defects, I add to my list of amends

-From Step by Step

flickchic · 08-30-2006, 05:11 PM

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Some of us had startling revelations when we did the exercise in which we evaluated the payoffs we experienced from our character defects. Now, if we look at those defects-this time to assess how they affected others-we'll find that our list of amends will start to grow.

and grow and grow!!!!!!

Doraine · 08-30-2006, 06:55 PM

What about unfaithfulness, reckless handling of money, excesses of food and drink, being judgmental, unreasonable expectations, sexual demands? Indifference? Dependency? Secrecy? Procrastination? Neglecting health problems? Selfishness?

In honestly reviewing my character defects, I add to my list of amends

-From Step by Step[/quote]

08-30-2006, 04:39 PM	#1
janbear willing servant Join Date: Jun 2006 Location: Oklahoma Posts: 14,184	How We've Harmed Others Some of us had startling revelations when we did the exercise in which we evaluated the payoffs we experienced from our character defects. Now, if we look at those defects-this time to assess how they affected others-we'll find that our list of amends will start to grow. For instance: How did our depressions affect our family, business associates, friends and neighbors? What impact did our lying have on them? What about unfaithfulness, reckless handling of money, excesses of food and drink, being judgmental, unreasonable expectations, sexual demands? Indifference? Dependency? Secrecy? Procrastination? Neglecting health problems? Selfishness? We've tried to convince ourselves that our attitudes and behavior really harmed no one but ourselves. But as we really big to dig, we find that that we've only looked at the tip of the iceberg. The more we probe, the more we realize we have to probe. Since no human being exists in a vacuum, it would be an impossiblity not to affect others by our deeds, our moods and our demands. In honestly reviewing my character defects, I add to my list of amends -From Step by Step __________________ And this above all, to thine own self be true. And it must follow as night the day, thou canst not be false to any man. -Shakespeare For as he thinks in his heart, so is he. Proverbs 23:7

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08-30-2006, 06:55 PM	#3
Doraine Trusted Servant Join Date: Jun 2006 Location: Lansford, PA Posts: 1,308	What about unfaithfulness, reckless handling of money, excesses of food and drink, being judgmental, unreasonable expectations, sexual demands? Indifference? Dependency? Secrecy? Procrastination? Neglecting health problems? Selfishness? In honestly reviewing my character defects, I add to my list of amends -From Step by Step[/quote]