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Florida Girl · 08-31-2006, 11:36 AM

My significant other has had a drinking problem for some time. He admitted it a couple of weeks ago and vowed he was going to stop drinking however I found out through the grape vine that last night he got a DUI. He hasn't said anything to me about it yet and I'm really not sure how to react. I told him months ago that if he ever got a DUI not to call me, if he couldn't call to keep from getting into trouble don't call me to get out of it.

Has anyone ever been in this situation?

Thanks!

Florida Girl

*snugsnug* · 08-31-2006, 02:11 PM

Hey florida girl,
I do not have any experience or strength in your situation, however what I do know is this, we have to make a decision on our own to stop drinking, and we have to ask for help. Nothing anyone said or did made me quit using dope, I had to make that decision on my own.

There is plenty of hope here, keep coming and browse around in the different forums, there is help here.

free2bunme · 08-31-2006, 02:29 PM

Hey Florida Girl-
Snug is right, there is nothing that you can do to stop him from drinking -- he is going to have to seek help of his own volition in order for it to work. Maybe this will be a wake up call.
In the meantime, your local Al-anon chapter will have a lot of good information for you to help you determine what to do in order to take care yourself, to learn about your significant other's disesase, and to give you support from other's who are in similar situations.
Also, you may want to check out some of the information about alcoholism on this website. Come back and keep sharing!
Take care,
Frannie

Doraine · 08-31-2006, 06:06 PM

I was married to a drug and alcohol abuser for 13 years. I went to Alanon for support and decided to get a divorce. Alanon can help you learn about the problem and how you need to take care of yourself. Good luck.

08-31-2006, 11:36 AM	#1
Florida Girl Newcomer Join Date: Aug 2006 Posts: 1	New and Need Advise My significant other has had a drinking problem for some time. He admitted it a couple of weeks ago and vowed he was going to stop drinking however I found out through the grape vine that last night he got a DUI. He hasn't said anything to me about it yet and I'm really not sure how to react. I told him months ago that if he ever got a DUI not to call me, if he couldn't call to keep from getting into trouble don't call me to get out of it. Has anyone ever been in this situation? Thanks! Florida Girl

08-31-2006, 02:11 PM	#2
snugsnug Servant of Christ Jesus Join Date: Jun 2006 Location: North Carolina Posts: 1,640	Hey florida girl, I do not have any experience or strength in your situation, however what I do know is this, we have to make a decision on our own to stop drinking, and we have to ask for help. Nothing anyone said or did made me quit using dope, I had to make that decision on my own. There is plenty of hope here, keep coming and browse around in the different forums, there is help here. __________________ We know that it is not our job to win the Kingdoms of the world for ourselves. We simply have to make witness to Jesus Christ and to Him crucified. De Colores

08-31-2006, 02:29 PM	#3
free2bunme Member Join Date: Jun 2006 Location: Atlanta, Georgia Posts: 1,542	Hey Florida Girl- Snug is right, there is nothing that you can do to stop him from drinking -- he is going to have to seek help of his own volition in order for it to work. Maybe this will be a wake up call. In the meantime, your local Al-anon chapter will have a lot of good information for you to help you determine what to do in order to take care yourself, to learn about your significant other's disesase, and to give you support from other's who are in similar situations. Also, you may want to check out some of the information about alcoholism on this website. Come back and keep sharing! Take care, Frannie __________________ The greatest mistake you can make in life is to be continually fearing you will make one. Elbert Hubbard It takes courage to grow up and turn out to be who you really are. e.e. cummings When sleeping women wake, mountains move. Chinese Proverb Only those who will risk going too far can possibly find out how far one can go. T.S. Eliot Let nothing upset you, Let nothing frighten you. Everything is changing; God alone is changeless. Patience attains the goal. Who has God lacks nothing; God alone fills all needs. Saint Teresa of Avila

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08-31-2006, 06:06 PM	#4
Doraine Trusted Servant Join Date: Jun 2006 Location: Lansford, PA Posts: 1,308	I was married to a drug and alcohol abuser for 13 years. I went to Alanon for support and decided to get a divorce. Alanon can help you learn about the problem and how you need to take care of yourself. Good luck.