Surviving the Emergency Stage

[janbear]

Surviving the Emergency Stage

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The most important thing to remember about the emergency stage is that it will end. There will be a time when you will not be thinking about sexual abuse twenty four hours a day. Until then, your job is to take care of yourself and to keep yourself safe.

-Don't try to hurt yourself. You survived the abuse and you can survive the healing process, too.

-Remind yourself that you're not going crazy. You're going through a natural part of the healing process.

-Find people you can talk to. And get support from other survivors.


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And this above all, to thine own self be true. And it must follow as night the day, thou canst not be false to any man. -Shakespeare



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Posted: Thu Dec 22, 2005 8:07 am Post subject:

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-Allow yourself to think about the abuse as much as you need to.And when you're able to focus on other things, take advantage of the break.

-Drop any responsibilites that aren't essential.


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"I am lighthouse rather than lifeboat. I do not rescue, but instead help others to find their own way to shore, guiding them by my example"Modern Affirmation

And this above all, to thine own self be true. And it must follow as night the day, thou canst not be false to any man. -Shakespeare



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Posted: Fri Dec 23, 2005 10:40 am Post subject:

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-Don't use alcohol or drugs to stop the pain.Numbing your feelings will only make the crisis last longer.


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And this above all, to thine own self be true. And it must follow as night the day, thou canst not be false to any man. -Shakespeare



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Posted: Fri Dec 23, 2005 7:18 pm Post subject:

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Get out of dangerous or abusive situations If you are in an abusive relationship, if your children are in danger, or if someone is still sexually abusing you, get help you need to leave. Call the National Child Abuse Hotline at 1-800-422-4453


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And this above all, to thine own self be true. And it must follow as night the day, thou canst not be false to any man. -Shakespeare



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Posted: Wed Dec 28, 2005 10:00 am Post subject:

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-Sit tight and ride out the storm.Your thinking isn't that clear right now. Unless you're in danger, this is not usually a good time to make major life changes.


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"I am lighthouse rather than lifeboat. I do not rescue, but instead help others to find their own way to shore, guiding them by my example"Modern Affirmation

And this above all, to thine own self be true. And it must follow as night the day, thou canst not be false to any man. -Shakespeare



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Posted: Mon Feb 13, 2006 5:34 pm Post subject:

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-Develop a belief in something greater than yourself.
Spirituality can give you hope and strength.


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And this above all, to thine own self be true. And it must follow as night the day, thou canst not be false to any man. -Shakespeare



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Posted: Tue Feb 14, 2006 11:34 am Post subject:

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-Talk to people who are further along in their healing


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And this above all, to thine own self be true. And it must follow as night the day, thou canst not be false to any man. -Shakespeare



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Posted: Fri Feb 17, 2006 10:06 am Post subject:

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Do as many nice things for yourself as possible.


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And this above all, to thine own self be true. And it must follow as night the day, thou canst not be false to any man. -Shakespeare



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Posted: Thu Feb 23, 2006 3:26 pm Post subject:

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The most important thing to remember about the emergency stage is that it will end. Until then, your job is to take care of yourself and to keep yourself safe.


_________________
"I am lighthouse rather than lifeboat. I do not rescue, but instead help others to find their own way to shore, guiding them by my example"Modern Affirmation

And this above all, to thine own self be true. And it must follow as night the day, thou canst not be false to any man. -Shakespeare