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*admin* · 09-20-2006, 12:56 PM

When I was around 13, I had gone to stay a few days with my step-sister during the Christmas Holidays. While at her house, R (my step-dad's brother-in-law) and a friend of his had come to visit my step-sister and her husband. My step-sister and her husband had 3 kids together. My step-sister, her husband, R, his friend and I were all outside. It was nearing dark so I whispered to my step-sister that I was going to go inside and go ahead and get my bath so I wouldn't be in the way of her bathing her kids later. I went in the house and got my bath. When I stepped out of the door of the bathroom to go to the bedroom I was using, R grabbed me in the hallway and kissed me putting his tongue in my mouth and his hands were going everywhere. I never saw him. He had to have been standing out in the hallway waiting for me. He then shoved me into the bedroom and forced me down on the bed and he was on top of me. I was screaming for help but he kept putting his hand over my mouth. Somehow I managed to hit him in the groin and he fell off of the bed and onto the floor. I jumped up off of the bed and ran outside, not saying anything to anyone. After R and his friend left, I told my step-sister and her husband what happened. Her husband was so angry over what had happened and said he wished I had said something while R was there.

That was over 30 years ago when that happened. My mom just told me recently that R is in jail under a million dollar bond for sexually abusing a 14 year old girl. This hasn't been long happened. He is in his 60's now. I don't know what will happen. I will try and let you know the outcome when I find out.

free2bunme · 09-20-2006, 01:57 PM

(((((((((Tammy )))))))

*janbear* · 09-20-2006, 05:02 PM

I hate this happened to you, Tammy, and to this other 14 yr. old. Abuse is alway a scarey thing to happen to any one, all of us can be set free as being victims, and not only are survivors but we can become thrivers in life. You, my dear sis i see as a thriver, allowing God to take you through to the other side. My heart aches for the young teen, my heart aches for you wishing i could be there with you. I love you and i am only a phone call away. My heart aches for all survivors of abuse.

*admin* · 09-21-2006, 05:21 AM

Thank you ((((Frannie & Jan))))

I talked to my mom yesterday and she said that he raped this 14 year old girl. She went to the hospital afterwards and there is evidence against him. The scene from many years ago kept replaying in my head yesterday of what happened to me. It was terrifying. It was only yesterday that I actually realized by writing this out that what he did to me was attempted rape. If I hadn't managed to hit him in the groin, I don't want to even imagine what might have happened. I didn't tell my mom about this until years later. There are others in the family who are speaking up about him and what he did to them over the years. His brother and son are just as sick. I had "run ins" with both of them when I was in my teens. His brother was married to another sister of my step-dad's. They are sick and need help and prayers.

*janbear* · 09-21-2006, 06:09 AM

Tammy

*admin* · 09-27-2006, 08:40 AM

Update: Mom said the bond was lowered to $65,000. She said that R and his brother put up the farm they inherited for the bond. So R has been released from jail. I don't know when the trial is yet. He could possibly get 8 years is what my mom said. I'll let you know when I get another update.

*clean42day* · 09-30-2006, 01:36 AM

((((Tammy)))) so sorry this has happened to you....there are never any words for this kind of trauma except that you didn't deserve it and God brought you through it to the loving person you are today. I am also sad to hear that he got the chance to do it again to another victim....I really wish they give him the full time he deserves.

in the meantime I pray that God surround you with healing and relief.

light and love

Gail

*admin* · 09-30-2006, 05:09 AM

Thank you ((((Gail))))

fibiray · 10-07-2006, 10:44 PM

Tammy I too am sorry this has happened to you and even more rocked that this guy got out of jail with a reduced bond. god bless you for your honesty and no doubt his contuppence will come to him one day.

Fi
xxx

*admin* · 10-08-2006, 06:24 AM

Thank you ((((fibiray)))).

I haven't heard any more about this. I will let you all know when I do.

09-20-2006, 12:56 PM	#1
admin Member Join Date: Jun 2006 Posts: 28,249	Something I would like to share with you When I was around 13, I had gone to stay a few days with my step-sister during the Christmas Holidays. While at her house, R (my step-dad's brother-in-law) and a friend of his had come to visit my step-sister and her husband. My step-sister and her husband had 3 kids together. My step-sister, her husband, R, his friend and I were all outside. It was nearing dark so I whispered to my step-sister that I was going to go inside and go ahead and get my bath so I wouldn't be in the way of her bathing her kids later. I went in the house and got my bath. When I stepped out of the door of the bathroom to go to the bedroom I was using, R grabbed me in the hallway and kissed me putting his tongue in my mouth and his hands were going everywhere. I never saw him. He had to have been standing out in the hallway waiting for me. He then shoved me into the bedroom and forced me down on the bed and he was on top of me. I was screaming for help but he kept putting his hand over my mouth. Somehow I managed to hit him in the groin and he fell off of the bed and onto the floor. I jumped up off of the bed and ran outside, not saying anything to anyone. After R and his friend left, I told my step-sister and her husband what happened. Her husband was so angry over what had happened and said he wished I had said something while R was there. That was over 30 years ago when that happened. My mom just told me recently that R is in jail under a million dollar bond for sexually abusing a 14 year old girl. This hasn't been long happened. He is in his 60's now. I don't know what will happen. I will try and let you know the outcome when I find out.

09-20-2006, 01:57 PM	#2
free2bunme Member Join Date: Jun 2006 Location: Atlanta, Georgia Posts: 1,542	(((((((((Tammy ))))))) __________________ The greatest mistake you can make in life is to be continually fearing you will make one. Elbert Hubbard It takes courage to grow up and turn out to be who you really are. e.e. cummings When sleeping women wake, mountains move. Chinese Proverb Only those who will risk going too far can possibly find out how far one can go. T.S. Eliot Let nothing upset you, Let nothing frighten you. Everything is changing; God alone is changeless. Patience attains the goal. Who has God lacks nothing; God alone fills all needs. Saint Teresa of Avila

09-20-2006, 05:02 PM	#3
janbear willing servant Join Date: Jun 2006 Location: Oklahoma Posts: 14,175	I hate this happened to you, Tammy, and to this other 14 yr. old. Abuse is alway a scarey thing to happen to any one, all of us can be set free as being victims, and not only are survivors but we can become thrivers in life. You, my dear sis i see as a thriver, allowing God to take you through to the other side. My heart aches for the young teen, my heart aches for you wishing i could be there with you. I love you and i am only a phone call away. My heart aches for all survivors of abuse. __________________ And this above all, to thine own self be true. And it must follow as night the day, thou canst not be false to any man. -Shakespeare For as he thinks in his heart, so is he. Proverbs 23:7

09-21-2006, 06:09 AM	#5
janbear willing servant Join Date: Jun 2006 Location: Oklahoma Posts: 14,175	Tammy __________________ And this above all, to thine own self be true. And it must follow as night the day, thou canst not be false to any man. -Shakespeare For as he thinks in his heart, so is he. Proverbs 23:7

09-30-2006, 01:36 AM	#7
clean42day Moderator Join Date: Jun 2006 Location: Lancaster CA Posts: 1,770	((((Tammy)))) so sorry this has happened to you....there are never any words for this kind of trauma except that you didn't deserve it and God brought you through it to the loving person you are today. I am also sad to hear that he got the chance to do it again to another victim....I really wish they give him the full time he deserves. in the meantime I pray that God surround you with healing and relief. light and love Gail __________________ Though no one can go back and make a brand new start, we can all start from today and make a brand new ending. ~Carl Bard~ "Live today fully, expressing gratitude for all you have been, all you are right now, and all you are becoming." Melodie Beattie

09-21-2006, 05:21 AM	#4
admin Member Join Date: Jun 2006 Posts: 28,249	Thank you ((((Frannie & Jan)))) I talked to my mom yesterday and she said that he raped this 14 year old girl. She went to the hospital afterwards and there is evidence against him. The scene from many years ago kept replaying in my head yesterday of what happened to me. It was terrifying. It was only yesterday that I actually realized by writing this out that what he did to me was attempted rape. If I hadn't managed to hit him in the groin, I don't want to even imagine what might have happened. I didn't tell my mom about this until years later. There are others in the family who are speaking up about him and what he did to them over the years. His brother and son are just as sick. I had "run ins" with both of them when I was in my teens. His brother was married to another sister of my step-dad's. They are sick and need help and prayers.

09-27-2006, 08:40 AM	#6
admin Member Join Date: Jun 2006 Posts: 28,249	Update: Mom said the bond was lowered to $65,000. She said that R and his brother put up the farm they inherited for the bond. So R has been released from jail. I don't know when the trial is yet. He could possibly get 8 years is what my mom said. I'll let you know when I get another update.

09-30-2006, 05:09 AM	#8
admin Member Join Date: Jun 2006 Posts: 28,249	Thank you ((((Gail))))

10-07-2006, 10:44 PM	#9
fibiray fibiray Join Date: Jun 2006 Location: central coast nsw australia Posts: 875	Tammy I too am sorry this has happened to you and even more rocked that this guy got out of jail with a reduced bond. god bless you for your honesty and no doubt his contuppence will come to him one day. Fi xxx

10-08-2006, 06:24 AM	#10
admin Member Join Date: Jun 2006 Posts: 28,249	Thank you ((((fibiray)))). I haven't heard any more about this. I will let you all know when I do.

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