Live and Let Live

[janbear]

Live and Let Live

“If I knew for a certainty that a man was coming to my house
with the conscious design of doing me good,
I should run for my life.�
Henry David Thoreau



I have gleaned from the OA program that I can let others be themselves and make their own decisions unless an issue involves me as well. What a powerful concept. I have struggled long and hard with the issue of letting others live their lives as they choose without the benefit of my wise, profound advice. I really believed that I had all the answers and that by listening to me, one could get his or her life on the right track and be forever grateful to me for the magnanimous favor I had done them. I REALLY believed this. I was also deeply frustrated when people did not immediately do whatever it was I “advised� them to do. How could they be so dumb?

More importantly, how did I overlook the fact that my own life was heading down hill at a remarkable clip? Thanks to the OA program, I have slowly learned to keep my mouth shut. My motto for relationships is simple: sweep off my side of the street. It makes being me so much easier ~ and it makes the lives of those around me a bit better too.

One day at a time...
Today I will accept and love those around me without acting on the urge to make their lives better, as if I knew what “better� for them might be. I will live and let live as I continue to realize the freedom the program offers me.



~ Pete