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12-02-2006, 09:28 AM
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12-03-2006, 07:46 AM
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How to Cope with Holiday party Stress and Anxiety
http://www.cyberrecovery.net/forums/...5165#post35165
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12-04-2006, 09:28 PM
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This is something I posted in another group several months ago ... might be timely for the holiday season. (If I have already posted this in this group, my apologies ... a quick search didn't bring it up)
************************** Assuming we are spiritually fit, we can do all sorts of things alcoholics are not supposed to do. People have said we must not go where liquor is served; we must not have it in our homes; we must shun friends who drink; we must avoid moving pictures which show drinking scenes; we must not go into bars; our friends must hide their bottles if we go to their houses; we mustn't think or be reminded about alcohol at all. Our experience shows that this is not necessarily so. We meet these conditions every day. An alcoholic who cannot meet them, still has an alcoholic mind; there is something the matter with his spiritual status. His only chance for sobriety would be some place like the Greenland Ice Cap, and even there an Eskimo might turn up with a bottle of scotch and ruin everything! In our belief any scheme of combating alcoholism which proposes to shield the sick man from temptation is doomed to failure. If the alcoholic tries to shield himself he may succeed for a time, but usually winds up with a bigger explosion than ever. We have tried these methods. These attempts to do the impossible have always failed. So our rule is not to avoid a place where there is drinking, if we have a legitimate reason for being there. Excerpts .. Pages 100-101, BB -------------------------------------------------------------------------------- Whenever I hear this discussed I think of my first social gathering after I stopped drinking but wasn't yet in AA. I was so uncomfortable and felt so out of place drinking my 7-UP while at the same time watching how the personalities of my friends changed the more they drank! I also remember being so uncomfortable at a small party given in honor of my 25th anniversary with the company I worked for. And what a close call I had at my retirement party ... I ordered a nonalcoholic "cocktail" but when they brought me the drink, it definitely had bourbon in it! Today I don't make a practice of being where alcohol is served but when that does happen, I am very comfortable knowing that I don't have to drink. If you are new, yes, this is confusing since we also tell you all you have to do is change persons, places and playthings in your life! The key is "spiritually fit" and my own interpretation ... have a solid foundation in recovery. Yesterday's chairperson so correctly pointed out to be sure and check with your sponsor before you put yourself in a position where alcohol will be served. Some of the advice that I hear every time this topic is discussed ... be sure you have your OWN transportation so you can exit if it gets too tempting for you. Take phone numbers with you and USE them if you are struggling. If possible, take another alcoholic with you for support. If you are at a dinner, turn the wine glass upside down, no one will try to serve you.
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12-14-2006, 06:25 PM
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'All I really need to know (to survive the holidays) I learned at a Twelve Step group'
http://www.cyberrecovery.net/forums/...7964#post37964
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12-18-2006, 05:52 AM
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What to Do When the Holidays Trigger Your Feelings of Loss
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Happiness is a choice.
Sometimes we have to go through difficulties to get us to come to a realization that we create our own lives....either for the good, or for the worse. Going through the hard times is not an easy task, and we can get hung up on focusing on the problems we are facing instead of the better life we have ahead. So again we have the choice to dwell on our problems, or to dwell on our happiness and our future. Today I choose to stay better focused on choosing happiness. Do you? Here's a multiple choice question for you. Who is more likely to be happy? (a) Someone who lays awake for an hour or so at night, replaying the day in their mind and agonizing over what could have been, and what should have been. "If only I'd said this..." "How dare they do that..." "Next time..." "If only..." or (b) The person who spends five minutes before bed feeling gratitude for all the good in their lives, and focusing on the expectation of more to come tomorrow. It's fairly obvious, isn't it? (I hope you said "b"!) How about this one: (a) The person who drives to work shouting obscenities at any driver who does not follow their grand vision of how the trip should proceed, or (b) The person who takes delight in the journey- enjoying the breeze through the window, and the sounds of the city, or their favorite radio station. It looks like "b" is the winner again Hmm! Too easy? Lets try one more. (a) The person who watches the news each evening, to hear the latest negativity from around the world. Wars, killings, political debates, or (b) The person who turns off the television, and reads a book, or throws a ball to their children in the park. If you got "b" again, CONGRATULATIONS! You're pretty good at this happiness stuff! So what's my point? Every moment in your life, YOU HAVE A CHOICE. Your actions and your thoughts will either produce feelings of happiness, or they won't. You can focus on the negative things in your life, or you can choose to focus on the positives. One will bring happiness, while the other won't. You can worry about the future, and regret the past, or you can choose to focus on the joy that exists around you right now. Once again, one of these choices will bring happiness, and the other won't. There's not one of us that deep down does not know the difference between happiness & sadness. So, ask yourself: "Are my current actions leading to happiness?" "Are my current thoughts leading to happiness?" If not, then change your actions. Change your thoughts. There is very little to be gained through persisting with negativity. Do you dread going to work each morning? Then either change your job, or change the way you think about your job. Focus your attention on how you're gaining the necessary skills and experience to move on to the dream job that you just know is part of your life's purpose. Do you hate the drive to work? Then travel a different route, or try sitting on a bus or train, listening to your favorite tunes on your MP3 player, or reading a book by your favorite author. Or use the time for personal recovery: Working a step, calling a newcomer, sponsor or sponsee, or listening to recovery-related audio tapes and CD's. Have you flicked through all 100 channels, and still found nothing to watch. Well, there is another choice. You can turn the TV off. Talk to your partner. Cook a nice meal. Read a book. Play with your kids. Honest! There is an OFF button on the remote control. Every moment is an opportunity to choose happiness. It's your choice! It's your life. Choose wisely.  
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