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Kristine · 12-05-2006, 01:51 AM

I have recently realized that I can not continue to do everything. Which is very hard for me. I lost my sense of smell, taste, and feel about two weeks. I thought that something was fatally wrong with me. Come to find out it is due to stress, depression, and anxiety. I am trying to come to grips with this. I feel that I can handle all of this on my own and there is no reason why i can't control this. I have been in denial about what this is because this is one of the happiest times in my life right now. I recently got married to a great man who I love very much. Which is new for me because I have not allowed myself to love a man because of my fear of losing control. We just bought a house. Well I guess there is not enough chaos for me. I am not use to allowing myself to be happy.
Up til now my purpose in life was to make everyone around me happy. I'm a people pleaser and a perfectionist. I have lost touch with what I like and who I am. I have become what everyone has what me to be.
Luckily since I am experiencing this strange reaction from stress, depression and anxiety, I am forced to look at myself and get help for myself. I am trying to find the best way to make a change in my life. I came across Cber Recovery and hope it will help. I am also making a huge step and going to counseling.

*Prescott* · 12-05-2006, 08:00 AM

Hi Kristine, Welcome to our group. look forward to getting to know you better. keep coming back !!!

blessed2be · 01-01-2007, 11:26 AM

Hi Kristine. I am new here too. I am also a people pleaser and perfectionist. I fear so much that I will lose this happiness I am experiencing in my life because I am not deserving of it. That explains why I am now getting help and plan on attending al-anon. I am completely doing a "me" makeover as not to ruin what I have in my life right now. We ADOA deserve to live a full, happy adult life. Good luck on your self-examination.

PatNewMex · 01-01-2007, 09:10 PM

Some phrasing in your post rang a bell with me. Be careful about wanting to be "in control" vs. being empowered. Power comes from within and is based on your truth. Control comes from outside of you, is fear based, thus having to "keep" control.

I found a good article on it today. The site that it was on was horribly laid out and many links didn't work, but power vs. control link did.

http://writingthesoul.com/Power%20vs.%20Control.htm

Pat

12-05-2006, 01:51 AM	#1
Kristine Newcomer Join Date: Dec 2006 Location: Michigan Posts: 1	New to this I have recently realized that I can not continue to do everything. Which is very hard for me. I lost my sense of smell, taste, and feel about two weeks. I thought that something was fatally wrong with me. Come to find out it is due to stress, depression, and anxiety. I am trying to come to grips with this. I feel that I can handle all of this on my own and there is no reason why i can't control this. I have been in denial about what this is because this is one of the happiest times in my life right now. I recently got married to a great man who I love very much. Which is new for me because I have not allowed myself to love a man because of my fear of losing control. We just bought a house. Well I guess there is not enough chaos for me. I am not use to allowing myself to be happy. Up til now my purpose in life was to make everyone around me happy. I'm a people pleaser and a perfectionist. I have lost touch with what I like and who I am. I have become what everyone has what me to be. Luckily since I am experiencing this strange reaction from stress, depression and anxiety, I am forced to look at myself and get help for myself. I am trying to find the best way to make a change in my life. I came across Cber Recovery and hope it will help. I am also making a huge step and going to counseling.

12-05-2006, 08:00 AM	#2
Prescott Moderator Join Date: Jun 2006 Location: Prescott AZ Posts: 3,196	Hi Kristine, Welcome to our group. look forward to getting to know you better. keep coming back !!! __________________ "Keep it simple" Love in recovery...John

01-01-2007, 09:10 PM	#4
PatNewMex Regular Join Date: Dec 2006 Location: Sunny New Mexico Posts: 11	In Control vs. Power Some phrasing in your post rang a bell with me. Be careful about wanting to be "in control" vs. being empowered. Power comes from within and is based on your truth. Control comes from outside of you, is fear based, thus having to "keep" control. I found a good article on it today. The site that it was on was horribly laid out and many links didn't work, but power vs. control link did. http://writingthesoul.com/Power%20vs.%20Control.htm Pat __________________ Simple things make me happy! "Do not argue for your weaknesses, or you will make them yours." Stephen Covey, author.

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01-01-2007, 11:26 AM	#3
blessed2be blessed2be Join Date: Dec 2006 Location: Illinois Posts: 27	Hi Kristine. I am new here too. I am also a people pleaser and perfectionist. I fear so much that I will lose this happiness I am experiencing in my life because I am not deserving of it. That explains why I am now getting help and plan on attending al-anon. I am completely doing a "me" makeover as not to ruin what I have in my life right now. We ADOA deserve to live a full, happy adult life. Good luck on your self-examination.