Moving Forward....Melody Beattie

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Moving Forward
Much as we would like, we cannot bring everyone with us on
this journey called recovery. We are not being disloyal by allowing
ourselves to move forward. We don't have to wait for those we love to
decide to change as well.
Sometimes we need to give ourselves permission to grow, even
though the people we love are not ready to change. We may even need to
leave people behind in their dysfunction or suffering because we cannot
recover for them. We don't need to suffer with them.
It doesn't help.
It doesn't help for us to stay stuck just because someone we
love is stuck. The potential for helping others is far greater when we
detach, work on ourselves, and stop trying to force others to change
with us.
Changing ourselves, allowing ourselves to grow while others
seek their own path, is how we have the most beneficial impact on
people
we love. We're accountable for ourselves. They're accountable for
themselves. We let them go, and let ourselves grow. .....M.B.