Self Harm

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Self Harm

“Everything hurts so much inside and my thoughts are so overwhelming yet so distant, whirling about and never leaving me… I argue with my rational self and the self that’s really hurting and doesn’t want to carry on anymore. I do cut myself. I don’t cut to die, I don’t cut for attention, I cut because it makes me feel better for just a few minutes. It’s like a drug- instant relief. Everything’s okay for a while. The world stands still and my mind feels cleared. It’s difficult to explain. I want to cry so badly sometimes, and I can’t…and I literally ache inside; the feeling is unbearable and when I cut myself some of the pressure and hurt from inside is released. I know it’s stupid; I know it’s wrong, but sometimes it’s the only thing that gets me through.�

Approximately 25 percent of individuals who suffer from eating disorders also participate in self-harming behavior. In and of itself the practice of an eating disorder could also be considered self-harming behavior. Self-harm is defined as the act of causing self-injury to one’s own body. Self-harm is also referred to as self-injury, self-abuse, self-inflicted violence, self-mutilation and para-suicide. Similar to eating disordered behavior, the self-harming behavior is participated in to help the individual cope with, take control of, block out and release unwanted feelings and emotions. The most common act of self-harm is cutting. Self-harming individuals usually inflict injury on their wrists, upper arms and inner thighs. The location of body marking is often in a place that can be hidden to avoid detection by others. Other forms of self –harming behavior include:

Cutting
Burning
Scratching
Hair pulling
Hitting
Picking
Branding
Biting
Self-poisoning
Wound interference

Although individuals who self-harm may have suicidal thoughts, the act in itself is not intended as a form of suicide but rather as a means of dealing with uncomfortable emotions. In essence, self-harming behavior is a dysfunctional coping mechanism. Self-injury’s goal is to help the individual dissociate from the immediate tension they are experiencing. Self-harmers speak about feeling overwhelmed with uncontrollable emotional thoughts and beliefs that are excessively painful. Unable to face this dire pain, they channel the uncontrollable pain into a different type of pain. One that although is still painful, seems to them understandable and more importantly, controllable. Through self-harming behavior, the real feelings are temporarily avoided and replaced by the new distracting pain. The pain from self-harming, although it hurts, is a familiar pain and not mysterious and scary like the original emotions and feelings. Some individuals who self-harm describe overall feelings of numbness and not belonging. For them the act of seeing their own blood when they self-harm helps them to feel alive and not dead inside, confirming their existence. Self-harming can also serve as a form of self-punishment for those who feel an inner sense of shame and guilt. Besides the obvious physical problems that self-harming causes, the problem with self-harming behavior is that the original pain is only temporarily deflected and never addressed. Since the original issues have only been avoided, the unknown frightening pain returns and even intensifies sending the self-harmer back into the vicious cycle of self-abuse. There can also be an almost addictive quality to self-harming. For some the act releases endorphins, the body’s natural defense to pain, into the bloodstream causing an almost numbing or pleasurable experience.

Most individuals who self-harm tend to be hard on themselves, perfectionists, have difficulty with expressing themselves and dislike their bodies. It is difficult for someone who self-harms to admit to someone about their self-injury because of the guilt and shame they feel. Self-harmers usually keep the behavior secret and feel like they are “crazy� and inherently bad. These individuals are reticent to ask for help because they are fearful that because they self-harm, they may be forced into a locked ward and held against their will. In actuality, self-harmers are sane individuals who have fallen into a maladaptive coping style to address their unbearable emotional pain.
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